Considering you're a woman, you should expect these types of things the second you open your WoW. Not all women are cherished in a video game community like this. Perhaps you should act a different way instead of attaching yourself to people and start being independent. Perhaps if you fit in with the community instead of being one of those as you call it "Abused Women" you should consider changing your ways. People don't like you because you side with others and attach yourself to them. Just be independent and perhaps you will be treated differently. It's a nice thing to have a variety in a video game gender wise, but with it comes independent responsibility. No matter where you go where you play there is always going to be negativity so expect it.
Wise words from Fierale.